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A child's mind is full of questions. Perhaps the greatest of these are the questions, 'Who am I?',
'What kind of person am I?', 'Where do I fit in?'. These are the questions of self-definition, upon
which we base our lives as adults, and from which we make all our key decisions. Because of this,
a child's mind is remarkably affected by statements which begin with the words, 'You are'.
2 Whether the message is "You are so lazy" or "You are a great kid," these statements from the
important adults will go deeply and firmly into the child's unconsciousness. (A)I have heard
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many adults, overcome by a life crisis*, recalling what they were told as a child: โI am so useless,
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I know I am.โ
Psychologists, like many professional groups, tend to complicate things just a little, and call
these statements (ยณ)โattributions'. These attributions crop up* again and again in adult life.
"Why don't you apply for the promotion?" "No, I'm not good enough.โ
"He's just like your last husband. Why did you marry him?" "I am just stupid, I guess.โ
These words - 'not good enough', 'just stupid' - did not come (c)out of the blue. (a)They are
recorded in people's brains because (b)they were said to (c)them at an age when (d)they
to question (e)their truthfulness*.
I can hear you saying, "children must disagree with the 'you' messages they are given."
Certainly children think about the things that are said to them, checking for accuracy. But they
may have no comparisons. Sometimes we are all lazy, selfish, untidy, stupid, forgetful,
mischievous, and so on. What our parents say is sometimes true of any of us. So, that is why
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